For as long as i can remember i have always heard and read about it...the (in)glorious notions of Eternal Love - from snowhite and her prince charming...to sleeping beauty and hers and their perfect kiss of life...to all the thousands of b&h'wood movies...to all the hundreds of novels...to ayn rand even. Yes...i am coming to that...i know...its fiction.
But lets face it...how many of us would 'not' want a picture-perfect romance...a la yesteryears when the girl and the boy would wait for their true love despite being miles apart...coz they knew...and they had faith and true love ! or like kajol n shahrukh in ddlj in more recent times...or like dagny taggart and john galt (my personal favourite)....or love stories of the likes of casablanca, when harry met sally, notting hill, p.s. i love u, gone with the wind, city of angels, titanic....and i could go on n on...BUT then there is the real life. Im no longer convinced that there is love in our lives anymore...let alone the epic ones !!!
I can prove it too.
These last couple of months have been intriguing to say the least. I have seen more than my share of broken relationships...heartbreak...tears...and 'something' innate. Honestly, this 'something' surprised me and sorta knocked me outta my wits. It was like a flash of lightening....that struck me one fine day and it all became crystal clear.
I finally figured....that in the fast paced world that we live in today....It is all about 'convenience' (i absolutely hate this word...but it explains it best...doesnt it ?!). Love is no longer about love, togetherness, compassion, trust, admiration, happiness, contentment and the pure joy of having someone as perfect as him/her in one's life. But its been reduced to the depraved standard of convenience.
I have seen so many couples that are together coz they happen to be in the same class / college / workplace....and the moment that phase in their life ends...so does their relationship. Many get together coz of lack of options. And then there are some who are commitment-phobic. Others like the flirts...simply dont care about anyone's feelings and change partners as they would change their clothes (n more often than not...mind u...these are the ones who will speak the loudest about love). And there are others still...who jus do it...for the heck of it.
And then there are the likes of those...who keep fighting when they are together....and then break up and then patch up...and fight again...and insult and abuse.
But what baffles me the most is....HOW in the world can a man be with a woman and yet claim to be in love with another one. How does it work ? How can one have someone in his heart...and another in his bed. Im told its the libido that gets the better of them...n i keep wondering....what kind of love is that then...
N here i thought...the whole point of looking for love and finding one....was to BE together....coz that special someone brought happiness and joy in one's life...making it beautiful...and worth living....and simply coz u'd want to share your life with her.
I am no expert on matters of the heart...farthest from it actually...to put it mildly ! Coz most of the times...i dont get it....neither the reasons behind the actions....nor the intentions. After a broken heart....and well some more hurt...it seems to me a vicious circle...and a very unforgiving one at that !! But what i do know is that -
'Most of us spend our lives looking for a perfect someone...someone we could spend a lifetime with. What a pity then...that we take infactuation for love...and throw away our love for a moments pleasure...'
Want to close with a line from atlas shrugged...authored by ayn rand -
"Love is our response to our highest values. Love is self-enjoyment. The noblest love is born out of admiration of another's values."
I can prove it too.
These last couple of months have been intriguing to say the least. I have seen more than my share of broken relationships...heartbreak...tears...and 'something' innate. Honestly, this 'something' surprised me and sorta knocked me outta my wits. It was like a flash of lightening....that struck me one fine day and it all became crystal clear.
I finally figured....that in the fast paced world that we live in today....It is all about 'convenience' (i absolutely hate this word...but it explains it best...doesnt it ?!). Love is no longer about love, togetherness, compassion, trust, admiration, happiness, contentment and the pure joy of having someone as perfect as him/her in one's life. But its been reduced to the depraved standard of convenience.
I have seen so many couples that are together coz they happen to be in the same class / college / workplace....and the moment that phase in their life ends...so does their relationship. Many get together coz of lack of options. And then there are some who are commitment-phobic. Others like the flirts...simply dont care about anyone's feelings and change partners as they would change their clothes (n more often than not...mind u...these are the ones who will speak the loudest about love). And there are others still...who jus do it...for the heck of it.
And then there are the likes of those...who keep fighting when they are together....and then break up and then patch up...and fight again...and insult and abuse.
But what baffles me the most is....HOW in the world can a man be with a woman and yet claim to be in love with another one. How does it work ? How can one have someone in his heart...and another in his bed. Im told its the libido that gets the better of them...n i keep wondering....what kind of love is that then...
N here i thought...the whole point of looking for love and finding one....was to BE together....coz that special someone brought happiness and joy in one's life...making it beautiful...and worth living....and simply coz u'd want to share your life with her.
I am no expert on matters of the heart...farthest from it actually...to put it mildly ! Coz most of the times...i dont get it....neither the reasons behind the actions....nor the intentions. After a broken heart....and well some more hurt...it seems to me a vicious circle...and a very unforgiving one at that !! But what i do know is that -
'Most of us spend our lives looking for a perfect someone...someone we could spend a lifetime with. What a pity then...that we take infactuation for love...and throw away our love for a moments pleasure...'
Want to close with a line from atlas shrugged...authored by ayn rand -
"Love is our response to our highest values. Love is self-enjoyment. The noblest love is born out of admiration of another's values."
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